Nollywood actor Bolanle Ninalowo has opened up on his journey towards healing and self-love, revealing that it has become one of the most fulfilling aspects of his life.

While speaking up via his social media page, the actor reflected on his past, noting that people-pleasing and extreme codependency made him realise he did not know how to value or love himself.

Ninalowo also stressed that he slowly realised that what he once regarded as love was largely attachment, adding that he is now at a place where self-love takes the central place.

“When I hear, ‘This man, you too love yourself’. Omo, you have no idea how much it gladdens my heart oo!! As a matter of fact, it is now one of the most fulfilling parts of my existence. Loving and choosing others, people-pleasing, over-giving, and the extreme codependency I lived with for almost my entire adult life made me realise something during my healing journey. I didn’t know how to love or value myself. What I once called Love was, in many ways, simply attachment”, he said.

The actor also shared his views on emotional trauma and the dangers of passing it on from one generation to another. He encouraged people to understand their trauma and change their lives, adding that there should be no shame in seeking healing.

”But no one talks about ending generational traumas! The way you were raised may have shaped how you love, communicate, parent, set boundaries, and respond to conflict. But you don’t have to pass every pattern down to the next generation. Healing means learning to pause, question what feels “normal,” and choose a different way. You can be the person who breaks the cycle. Understand your trauma. Change your life. There is no shame in healing”, he added.