There was a time when being someone’s fan meant buying their music, watching their films, supporting their business, or celebrating their achievements. Today, for a growing number of people, being a fan has taken on a far more disturbing meaning. It now means attacking strangers online, defending the indefensible, spreading hate, intimidating critics and, in extreme cases, destroying lives in the name of loyalty to someone who may never know they exist.

This is one of the most troubling realities of the social media age.

Every day, millions of Nigerians log on to X, TikTok, Instagram, Facebook and YouTube. While these platforms have created opportunities for creativity, entrepreneurship and meaningful conversations, they have also given rise to a dangerous culture where blind loyalty often replaces independent thinking.

Whether it is a celebrity, influencer, TikToker, streamer or public figure, one pattern has become impossible to ignore: some fans have become so emotionally invested that they are willing to insult, bully and even threaten complete strangers simply because someone they admire has been criticised.

The question we should all be asking is: *When did admiration become warfare?*

Over the years, I have watched online disagreements escalate into campaigns of UN harassment. I have seen adults—people with careers, families and responsibilities—behave as though their greatest purpose in life is to fight another person’s battles on the internet. Friendships have ended, businesses have suffered and reputations have been destroyed because of conflicts fuelled by people who have confused loyalty with hostility.

What is even more alarming is that these conflicts rarely remain online.

Victims of coordinated bullying often carry the emotional scars into their everyday lives. Some withdraw from public spaces. Others experience anxiety, depression and emotional distress. Around the world, sustained online harassment has been linked to devastating mental health consequences, and in some tragic cases, victims have taken their own lives. Behind every anonymous account is a real human being capable of feeling pain.

Words typed in seconds can leave wounds that last a lifetime.

Perhaps the most surprising lesson social media has taught us is that intelligence, wealth, education and popularity do not always translate into wisdom. Blind loyalty knows no social class. It is not determined by age, income or professional status. It is a mindset that convinces otherwise sensible people to abandon reason in defence of personalities they have never met.

This raises an uncomfortable question for those with large online followings.

Influence comes with responsibility.

Celebrities, influencers and digital creators may not personally type every abusive comment, but silence can sometimes be interpreted as approval. When supporters repeatedly attack others in your name without any public attempt to discourage such behaviour, it becomes difficult to separate yourself entirely from the culture surrounding your brand.

Every public figure should make it clear that admiration should never become abuse.

There is nothing wrong with having loyal supporters. In fact, every successful entrepreneur, artist and creator depends on public goodwill. Fans help businesses grow, amplify positive messages and contribute to commercial success. They are valuable partners in building brands.

However, support should never become an excuse for intimidation.

Every influencer, celebrity and public personality should regularly remind their audience that disagreement is not hatred, criticism is not betrayal, and opposing opinions do not justify harassment. Leadership is not only measured by how many followers you have but also by the values you encourage among them.

The responsibility does not rest with public figures alone.

To those who proudly identify as fans, it is worth asking a simple question: **What are you fighting for?**

Many people spend hours every day defending people who neither know their names nor understand the personal sacrifices they make. Time that could be invested in learning a new skill, building a business, improving one’s education or strengthening family relationships is instead consumed by online battles that produce nothing but anger and division.

Supporting someone’s work is admirable. Surrendering your identity to someone else’s life is not.

Perhaps the greatest irony of social media is that almost everyone, regardless of their character, can attract devoted followers. History has shown that even criminals, fraudsters, human traffickers, violent extremists and other deeply unethical individuals have had loyal supporters. Popularity has never been proof of integrity, and a large following has never been evidence of good character.

That is why every individual must think independently rather than emotionally.

The internet rewards outrage because outrage generates clicks, engagement and advertising revenue. Every argument, every trend and every online war benefits someone financially. Meanwhile, ordinary people invest their emotions, damage relationships and sometimes risk their mental health defending interests that are not their own.

Nigeria needs a different digital culture.

One where influence is measured not by the number of people willing to attack on your behalf, but by the number inspired to become kinder, wiser and more productive citizens.

Social media is a remarkable tool. It has created businesses, launched careers and connected millions across the world. Yet its greatest promise will only be realised when we remember that behind every profile picture is a fellow human being deserving of dignity and respect.

The next time an online disagreement tempts us to become another keyboard warrior, perhaps we should pause and ask ourselves one question:

**Will this argument improve my life, my family or my future?*

If the answer is no, then perhaps it is time to log off, invest in ourselves and allow admiration to remain exactly what it should be—support, not fanaticism.

Because the change we desperately seek online begins not with celebrities or influencers, but with each of us.